Paranoid
Original Poster: shots
Forum: Hand to Hand Combat
Posted On: 08-12-2005, 01:23
Orginal Post: shots: Hi all , this is my first post, i was recently in a fight with a guy at school and beat him, so after that he decided to jump me with his friends. So igot my freind who knows knows him to back him off for me becasue the guy fighting me is scared shitless of the guy backing me up. So over the weekend i eneded the beef by talking it out. But my friend called again to make sure nothing will happen again. So i was at school but i have been worried like crazy for like 5 days about whats going to happen. But nothing happened becasue its the first day that i see the guy again after me and my freind talked to him. The whole day passed and nothing happened. But i still think thta him or his freinds will try to jump me, but i know they wont becasue the guy im fightig will get scared of my freind. Do u guys know any advice to help me out, ive been strtessed out about this for a while thinking the guy will trty to do soemthing, but then i think that if any of his freinds or him trty to do something he'll be in shit of it. And by the way this was my first fight. Do you guys know any way of getting over this feeling.
Post: TKDman:
Quote: Do u guys know any advice to help me out
Yeah. Stay at school. 1) You won't get beat up in front of the teachers and 2) you'll learn to spell. What are you, 13?>
Post: bamboo:
Time heals feelings. On a side note, a little paranoia is never bad.
Oh yeah, if your smokin' Jah, lay off for awhile. :wink:>
Post: dscott:
Exactly what Bamboo said, time heals feelings. Also if you're that worried....confront him and ask him if you guys are cool. He may be cool with you. If he's not cool with you, then you know and you don't have to be paranoid anymore.>
Post: shots:
Well the guy seems that he doesnt care about the fight but also seems like he still cares . He looks like nothing happened. But do u think his frind will try to do anything., his friend had nothing to do with the fight , but was trying to tease me for bringing my friend into it. And both of those guys are in my class, i just dont want trouble but i want to prove it in a way that they know im not scared. And about the time heals all fealings , i think im finaly feeling that cuz im starting to worry less and less every day . But i just want it to go away.>
Post: samurai6string:
Sounds like you are handling it just fine. The easiest thing might be to just drop it, that way no one feels like they have to lose face. The friend of the person you fought will more than likely give up teasing you if he sees he can't get a rise out of you, and he's probably only doing that so that his friend doesn't look bad. If the other guy is acting like nothing happened, you should follow his lead and just let the whole thing drop. Be glad that you have the ability to talk your way out of a bad situation, and have friends that are willing to back you up just in case. :)>
Post: shots:
because the thing that is puzzling me is that on the day that i came back from the weekend, his friend saw me in the hallway and said some stuff to me, not an insult but not a good thing. And later in class this guy didnt even say anything, i was wondering if maybe his friend told him to shut up or then he'll be in trouble again. I even saw him in the hallway at the end of the period and he looked at me and carried on with what he's doing and this was right after the remark in the hallway thing.I am sick of thinking about this day in and day out, it's like one part of my mind says that these guys probably dont care about it but the other part says maybe his friend will try teasing and trying to get you to get pissed at him or his freind , what do you usualy do to get your mind of things like these. Thanks for the help so far.>
Post: Gangsta_Nerd:
[quote=shots I am sick of thinking about this day in and day out, it's like one part of my mind says that these guys probably dont care about it but the other part says maybe his friend will try teasing and trying to get you to get pissed at him or his freind , what do you usualy do to get your mind of things like these. Thanks for the help so far.[/quote
Your main problem is "YOU WORRY TOO MUCH." The best advice that could be given regarding this situation, has ALREADY been given to you. "Let TIME take care of it & please stop THINKING about it." 8)
Check this out "lil homie:" I got jumped SEVERAL times in school and I over came the "beef" by constructing a STRATEGIC ADVANTAGE. For example, in your original post, you stated that you had a homeboy who stepped in and prevented your beef, with the dude that you had the fight with, from escalating (i.e. your homie stopped you from getting jumped).
Why don't you do what I did and form a little "crew." It could just be you and your homie, that the "bullies" are scared of. Talk to your boy and arrange it where "when they see you, they see him too!" You said so yourself that the "bullies" are scared of your homie. Keep your boy around you. That way, even if those cowards do want beef, you got your boy RIGHT THERE WITH YOU.
Don't get me wrong. AVOID A FIGHT AT ALL COSTS. I doubt those cowards will even try anything if you get your "crew" (you, your homeboy that they are scarred of, some other friends, etc.) together; however, if they do, then it's no longer "Lets jump this dude," it now becomes "Should we jump this dude, when he's got back up & THEY ALL CAN FIGHT!" :wink:
Know what I'm talkin' 'bout, Cuzz. 8) >
Post: Gangsta_Nerd:
Also, I think it is important for me to mention that I AM NOT RECOMMENDING THAT "SHOTS" JOIN/START A "GANG!"
A "gang" is defined by LAW as "an organized association of CRIMINALS."
These groups include CRIP sets, blood's, Gangster Deciples, Black Guerilla Mafia, Black P-Stone Nation, vice lords, surenos, nortenos, 18th Street gang, mexican mafia, mara salvatrucha (MS-13), Texas Syndicate, latin kings, netas, nuestra familia, Southeast Asians, italian mob, aryan brotherhood, nazi low riders, peckerwoods, & ON & ON & ON!
I am simply suggesting that he, along with his other friends, hang out together to deter future trouble from those who antagonize him.
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Post: BLACK PANTA:
forget these dude,
Pack a hankerchief, tie it to the end of a broom stick, and leave to start a new life. You know the WRP from the FBI dont work...dont trust them either...they're all in it together. Leave the name of Baggins behind, and travel only at night...stay off the main roads.>
Post: shots:
My friend doesnt go to my school though. like if these guys wanted to do something they would have done it. But i guess when the time keeps moving his side will drop it, thats not if they havent dropped it already. I was only worried about maybe if his freind might do something but then i though, what the hell does he have to do with the situation and then i thought if his friend dropped it, then why wouldnt he.>
Post: samurai6string:
Now you're thinking Shots. I'm a person who overthinks things as well. :) The fact that the person you actually had a problem with is acting like it never happened should be the biggest sign that you really don't have anything to worry about. I think everyone here has had their share of bullies, and bullies look for the easiest target. This guy and his friends will probably move on to someone else.
Also, Id like to hand it to you for the way you approached the forum members with your question. I can't tell you how many times someone in your situation has come on here asking us "what's the best one hit KO?" or sometheing else just as ridiculous. A good head on your shoulders can the best weapon of all, so bravo.
And LOL at Panta's LoTR reference.>
Post: shots:
thanks samurai , so basicly if the guy i fought got over it , his friend will drop it too?>
Post: samurai6string:
more than likely, at least a good enough chance for you to ease your mind about it. As hard as it is to not worry about something, it won't do you any good. If someone wants to pick a fight, they are going to pick a fight, you worrying about it won't do much either way, but if you look worried, it could encourage this guy's friends. Animals in the wild (even domestic dogs) try their darndest to not show signs of injury to deter predators or rivals. You might even want to go to the extreme, and give a wave or a nod to this guy if you see him in the hallway. Then he will see that you aren't afraid but you are doing it in a non confrontational way. You seem pretty level headed, you'll figure it out.
One other thing, not to embarass you, but how old are you and the other people we are talking about?>
Post: shots:
im 16 and the guys im fighting are probably 1 year older than me. Becasue so far everything looks calm, like i saw the guy in the hallway and nodded my head to him and he nodded back, then the next day me and one of my freinds were doing something in class then he came over and me and him spoke very breifly maybe a couple of words. How do i know for sure the guy is okay with everything. I mean the guy is acting like he always did just maybe a little less hyper, like you almost can't tell the difference, but u cant still kind of hint that he's angry. i guess my main problem is that im always thinking whats gonna happen the next day, wether this guy will say something or not. And sinsce these guys are in my class it hard to avoid them. Like i dont wanna be sitting and then the guy starts trying to remind me about the fight, i dont even want to talk to them in class. How long does it usualy take ppl to just forget about the whole thing and drop the grudge.>
Post: samurai6string:
It can be a tough call, but it sounds like he wants to let bygones be bygones. Were you friends before the fight or was he just a classmate? What was the fight about?>
Post: shots:
well before the fight we where just classmates, joke here and there . And the fight was about something stupid but was started by him, because he was throwing things at me and i hit back , so he got pissed and started shoving me. But i forgot one thing, my friend told him that if he got beef with me, he got beef with my friend himself. So the guy is probably just trying to avoid me too.>
Post: samurai6string:
well, if there's not a history of bullying between you, I would think that the problem is over. The best thing you can do is just try to let it go and not worry about it. Good luck.>
Post: shots:
thanks for the help samurai.>
Post: samurai6string:
any time :)>
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